MEASURING YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE LEVEL
Measuring your level of emotional intelligent is very important because it makes you know where and what you need to improve on. Emotional intelligence increases our capacity to discover and express our greatness. Why? Because emotional intelligence demands complete disclosure of our strengths. As a result, we can begin to fully understand our ideal selves and compare this ideal to how we behave each day. Our ideal self is the self that emerges when we are unencumbered by the burden of irrational thoughts and emotional upsets that can sometimes distract us from our intentions.
It’s that glimpse of self that does and says the right thing at the right time in the right manner. It’s that self that is centered and assured. It’s that self that doesn’t feel a need for other people’s approval or a need to compete at the expense of others. It doesn’t fear making mistakes. It doesn’t lash out in anger or spend time fretting or fearing things that it cannot control. It’s that self that takes confident, assured steps in both our personal and work lives that produce satisfaction and success. It’s that self that inspires others. It’s that self that we’re proud of. I’m not talking about ego pride. I’m talking about satisfaction deep down when we know we’ve lived our best today.
Emotional Intelligence Areas and Skills
1. Self-Awareness
2. Self-Management
3. Social Awareness
4. Relationship Management
Self-Awareness
The only way to learn about your emotions is to know why and where it came from.
Just thinking about self-awareness helps you improve yourself, 86% of successors are high in self-awareness. Managing yourself and your relationships means you need to know about how you feel, knowing and facing the fact of which you really are can be difficult but is the first step.
Self-Awareness Strategies
1. Quit treating your feeling as good or bad
2. Observe the ripple effect from your emotions
3. Lean into your discomfort
4. Feel your emotions physically
5. Know who and what pushes your buttons
6. Watch yourself like a hawk
7. Keep a journal about your emotions
8. Don’t be fooled by a bad mood
9. Don’t be fooled by a good mood either
10. Stop and ask yourself why you do the things you do
11. Visit your values
12. Check your self
13. Spot your emotions, in book, music and movies
14. Seek feedback
15. Get to know yourself under stress
Self-Management
Successes come to those who can put their need on hold and continuing manage their tendencies, ability to separate emotion from logic. Self-management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions to actively choose what you say and do. A high level of self-management ensures you aren’t getting in your own way and doing things that limit your success. It also ensures you aren’t frustrating other people to the point that they resent or dislike you. When you understand your own emotions and can respond the way you choose to them, you have the power to take control of difficult situations, react nimbly to change, and take the initiative needed to achieve your goals.
Self-Management Strategies
1. Breathe Right
2. Create an Emotion vs. Reason List
3. Make Your Goals Public
4. Count to Ten
5. Sleep On It
6. Talk To a Skilled Self-Manager
7. Smile and Laugh More
8. Set Aside Some Time in Your Day for Problem Solving
9. Take Control of Your Self-Talk
10. Visualize Yourself Succeeding
11. Clean Up Your Sleep Hygiene
12. Focus Your Attention on Your Freedoms Rather than Your Limitations
13. Stay Synchronized
14. Speak to Someone Who is Not Emotionally Invested in Your Problem
15. Learn a Valuable Lesson from Everyone You Encounter
16. Put a Mental Recharge into Your Schedule
17. Accept That Change is Just around the Corner
Social Awareness
It ensures you stay focus and observe situations around you, getting to know how others are feeling while they express themselves. Spot peoples emotion. Social awareness, a skill they use to recognize and understand the moods of other individuals and entire groups of people. Though these two may be seasoned veterans at this, it is a skill that they most likely learned and practiced over time. Instead of looking inward to learn about and understand you, social awareness is looking outward to learn about and appreciate others. Social awareness is centered on your ability to recognize and understand the emotions of others. Tuning into others’ emotions as you interact with them will help you get a more accurate view of your surroundings, which affects everything from relationships to the bottom line.
Social Awareness strategy
1. Greet People by Name
2. Watch Body Language
3. Make Timing Everything
4. Develop a Back-pocket Question
5. Don’t Take Notes at Meetings
6. Plan Ahead for Social Gatherings
7. Clear Away the Clutter
8. Live in the Moment
9. Go on a 15-minute Tour
10. Watch EQ at the Movies
11. Practice the Art of Listening
12. Go People Watching
13. Understand the Rules of the Culture Game
14. Test for Accuracy
15. Step into Their Shoes
16. Seek the Whole Picture
17. Catch the Mood of the Room
Relationship Management
It’s your ability to bond with others overtime, it is the result of how you understand people, how you treat them and how you go way down with them. It gives you the skill to know how to avoid conflict. Working on a relationship takes time, effort, and know-how. The know-how is emotional intelligence. If you want a relationship that has staying power and grows over time, and in which your needs and the other person’s needs are satisfied, the final EQ skill—relationship management—is just what the doctor ordered.
Relationship Management Strategies
1. Be Open and Be Curious
2. Enhance Your Natural Communication Style
3. Avoid Giving Mixed Signals
4. Remember the Little Things That Pack a Punch
5. Take Feedback Well
6. Build Trust
7. Have an “Open-door” Policy
8. Only Get Mad on Purpose
9. Don’t Avoid the Inevitable
10. Acknowledge the Other Person’s Feelings
11. Complement the Person’s Emotions or Situation
12. When You Care, Show It
13. Explain Your Decisions, Don’t Just Make Them
14. Make Your Feedback Direct and Constructive
15. Align Your Intention with Your Impact
16. Offer a “Fix-it” Statement during a Broken Conversation
17. Tackle a Tough Conversation
Five benefits of Emotional Intelligence
1. It helps strengthen the ability to build solid relationship and handle multiplex interaction for grow
2. Development of communication to expressive level either verbal or non-verbal
3. Moderation of aggressiveness
4. Recognition of self- awareness and control
5. Self-understanding of “think-before-acting”
6. Emotional clarity through observation study.
